Emotional Impact of a Contested Case

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Separation or divorce is a legal process, but it is also a difficult emotional process. You and your family will surely feel the impact of the changes going on in your life.

 Here are some suggestions:

  • If you and your spouse or partner can't agree about parenting responsibilities or money issues, get help from a mediator or mental health professional.
  • Keep your children out of the conflict between you and your spouse or partner. Set aside your own emotions whenever possible and think of the "best interests" of your children.

Some Tips on Helping Your Children Cope With Your Divorce:

  • Do not keep the divorce a secret from your children or wait until the last minute to discuss it.
  • Tell your children together.
  • Keep things simple and straightforward.
  • Assure them that the divorce is not their fault.
  • Admit that a divorce will be sad and upsetting for everyone.
  • Reassure your children that you both still love them and will always be their parents.
  • Do not discuss each other's faults or problems with the children. This could cause children to feel as though they have to choose which parent to love.
  • Be alert so signs of distress in your child and respond with patience and love.
  • If a child shows ongoing signs of distress, discuss it with your family doctor or pediatrician and acquire a referral to psychiatric and/or other metal health services for you and your child.

For more suggestions, please read our page on Asking for Help.





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